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Dear ANC Delegates and MPs,

Having been born and raised in the final years of apartheid I understood that the only movement that seeks to liberate the poor, black, and oppressed, was the African National Congress “ivili elinomkhonto” as my grandmother would say. So much so that when I was old enough to vote for the first time, in the second national democratic elections in 1999, there was no doubt in my mind that the only organisation I was going to vote for was the ANC. I was awed by your courage to challenge the apartheid system and its oppression of the people.

Many of you sacrificed much more than anyone else will ever do in their lifetime. For the liberation of the people and the country, you abandoned your families and went into exile. Some of you went to prison, and others paid the ultimate sacrifice – they gave their lives so that we, your children, could enjoy freedom, justice and equality.

It would be unjust not to acknowledge that the ANC was responsible for the democracy we now enjoy.

But with all due respect my Fathers, Mothers and elders, you have lost your way, and by so doing you will find yourselves on the wrong side of history.

As a black young South African woman who has always been disadvantaged, I was deeply disturbed to hear in the news in December that the 54th ANC Conference held at Nasrec adopted a resolution to support the full decriminalisation of prostitution and its recognition as “work”. By so doing, you have sent a clear message not only to us your daughters but the whole world how you would like us and our children, your grandchildren to remember you.

Women in prostitution do not wake up one day and “choose” to be prostituted. Prostitution is chosen for them by our colonial past and apartheid, persistent inequalities, poverty, past sexual and physical abuse, the pimps who take advantage of our vulnerabilities and the men who buy us in prostitution. Most women are drawn into prostitution at a young age, some as young as 13 years old. Women and girls in prostitution have almost no resources to help them exit the sex trade. There is currently no government support for pyscho-social services or economic empowerment programs to provide alternatives for women and girls in prostitution and those who are at risk of entering this very harmful exploitative “industry”.

Twenty thousand women, some of which are still amongst you in the ANC today, marched against the unjust apartheid system to the Union Buildings and vowed not to rest until they had won fundamental rights to freedom, justice and security for us, their children. Is this the freedom these women were fighting to win – the right for the privileged and powerful to buy us, their daughters for their sexual pleasure?

Your organisation has been in government for the past two decades. During this time the rich have become richer and the poor, poorer. You have yet to effectively address the inequalities caused by male domination, our colonial past and apartheid. While these inequalities remain your 54thconference resolution to fully decriminalize prostitution and recognize it as work will, in effect legitimize the exploitation of those made vulnerable by the inequalities the liberation struggle sought to end.

The decriminalization of prostitution and its recognition as work goes against the spirit and letter of our constitution. The Bill of Rights in Chapter Two of our constitution guarantees the right to life and human dignity. It guarantees the right to equality, bodily and psychological integrity and security of the person. Under no circumstances should these fundamental rights be denied or compromised. The state is under obligation to do all it can to protect these rights, including using the limitation clause. Prostitution undermines all the basic human rights in our constitution. There is no way the decriminalization of the sex trade can be justified and be in line with our constitution.

You speak about radical economic transformation. Is the decriminalization of prostitution and its recognition as work part of your plan to radically transform the lives of the poor, black and disadvantaged economically? Since under your proposed legal framework prostitution will now be “work” will a new curriculum be introduced at schools to prepare girls for this” profession”?

Our constitution promotes equality regardless of race, gender or economic status. I fail to understand how we will achieve gender equality by promoting the financial dependence of women on men. If women are to sell sex for survival this makes them dependent on men and that does not make them equal to men but puts them at the mercy of men.

There is strong evidence that points to the fact that women and girls in prostitution suffer gross human rights violations at the hands of those who buy them for sex, those who sell and exploit them for their financial benefit (pimps and brothel owners) and the police. Yes, I agree that the violence is perpetuated by the fact these women are criminalized and therefore receive no protection from the law. They fear re-victimization by the criminal justice system. I agree they those who sell sex should be decriminalized but there is no basis to decriminalize those who buy sex and those who sell women and girls (pimps and brothel owners). They must remain criminalized. They should not be given a license to exploit a position of vulnerability caused by gender inequality, unemployment and poverty.

Women in prostitution dream of a life free from oppression, patriarchy, and economic inequalities. A life where they have access to a wider array of dignified and decent employment options, where they can participate as citizens and not a “key population”, living on the margins of society.

I urge you to remember the goals of the Freedom Charter of which you, our Fathers, Mothers and Elders are the custodians. I remind you of International Human Rights Law, which grants women’s fundamental rights to dignity, equality, freedom from oppression and exploitation and the security of the person. My Fathers, Mothers and elders, I urge you to rethink your 54th conference resolution. Those who sell sex should be decriminalized but those who buy, sell and exploit them must remain criminalized.

I hope to hear from you soonest.

Your Daughter,

Mickey Meji (Founder & Leader of KWANELE Movement)

This article was published on news24 on the 28 January 2018. Click here to view the article.

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Decriminalizing Prostitution In South Africa: A Recipe to Extinguish the Legacy of Sara Baartman

Decriminalizing Prostitution In South Africa: A Recipe to Extinguish the Legacy of Sara Baartman

The spirit of Saartjie “Sara” Baartman runs deep in South Africa. In the early 19th century, a Dutch farmer near Cape Town enslaved Sara and, a few years later, a British doctor took her to Europe. A KhoiKhoi woman with protuberant buttocks and genitalia the British deemed proof of an over-sexualized being, Sara was branded a freak of nature and exhibited in London’s Piccadilly Circus. After the novelty wore off, Sara’s owners prostituted her and showcased her in rich Parisian homes, inviting guests to touch her naked body as entertainment. Sara died of alcohol-induced and other illnesses at age 26.

Today, a handful of South African centers serving women survivors of abuse are named after Sara Baartman. They struggle to meet immeasurable needs in a country with one of the world’s highest rates of sexual violence. South Africa has strong domestic violence and sexual offences laws, yet the rate of gender-based violence has exponentially increased in the past twenty years. Human rights organizations call South Africa the “rape capital“ of the world. This tragic classification does not include women and girls purchased in the sex trade.

Prostitution, one of the most brutal forms of male-perpetrated sexual abuse, is illegal in South Africa. While corrupt police are known to arrest and brutalize the women for loitering, buyers of sexual acts are rarely arrested.

The South African Law Commission is about to publish recommendations for reforming the law on prostitution. The Commission will advise the government on which of the three major legal frameworks to adopt: maintain the total criminalization of what it calls “adult prostitution”; decriminalize or legalize the sex trade, including pimping and sex-purchasing; or choose the “Equality Model,” which only decriminalizes prostituted individuals. France recently enacted the Equality Model, holding sex buyers accountable for the harm they cause while offering comprehensive services to prostituted women.

Among the South African organizations supporting the Equality Model is Embrace Dignity, a grassroots non-profit in Cape Town that advocates for the rights and safety of trafficked and prostituted women and girls, who are victims of a lethal mix of dire poverty, the low status of girls, and abuse of power. With its allies, the group is urging the government to adopt a law promoting principles of equality, protection and dignity enshrined in the South African constitution.

A few miles from the breathtaking splendor of quasi white-only neighborhoods and the golden coast of Cape Town is Khayelitsha, an impoverished shantytown, where most of Embrace Dignity’s clients or “sisters” live. There I met Zanele*, a shy but resolute sex trade survivor who works with Embrace Dignity.

“What I wanted was go to school and get skills to make a living,” said Zanele who is now 22 and was sex trafficked at 16 years old, a status that did not melt away when she came of legal age. “Everyone who sells her body has to take drugs or alcohol to do it. It’s not a job and if prostitution becomes legal here, it means your daughters will do it too.”

Sex buyers are the bedrock of the highly profitable sex trade; without them the sordid multi-billion dollar business would collapse and sex traffickers would have no place to park its prey.

Also, while the Commission presupposes severe penalties for those who commercially sexually exploit children, it excepts adult prostitution. How will the government identify “adult prostitution?” Will there be protocols asking prostituted women their age of entry into the sex trade, histories of childhood sexual abuse and whether they have pimp-boyfriends? What systems will be developed to discern 17 year-old sex-trafficked children from 18 year-old “consensual ‘sex workers’”? Will these procedures include nightly brothel checks for identification? If so, South Africa would quickly find that the percentage of those who truly “consent” to prostitution is infinitesimal. Minimal research on the horrors unfolding in countries that have either legalized or decriminalized the sex trade would enlighten the government about the true meaning of “consent” to prostitution.

“Women die at the hands of their buyers, the police and their pimps,” said Soraya Mentoor, executive director of Embrace Dignity. “I fear witnessing an increased number of coffins built if the South African government legalizes prostitution; sexual violence will be for sale with impunity.”

The British abolitionists who campaigned for Sara Baartman’s freedom faced many of the same challenges presented today in addressing sex trafficking and prostitution. Sara traveled to Europe of her own free will, people said. She testified in court in her trafficker’s favor, a trauma-triggered response that probably prolonged her ordeal. Instead of accepting the sex trade as an inexorable component of society, we must rip apart the poisonous recipe that colonizes both the earth and women’s bodies: I see, I want, I invade, I own. And when prostitution is involved: I justify as inevitable.

Today, from Washington, D.C. to Nairobi, increasing calls for a free market approach to the sex trade willfully ignore the deaths and unspeakable harms suffered by prostituted people at the hands of sex buyers and exploiters. Like the voyeurs at Piccadilly Circus, we are applauding or silently accepting the commodification of women’s bodies, indifferent to their stories of despair and brutality.

President Nelson Mandela succeeded in repatriating Sara Baartman’s remains almost 200 years after her traffickers first sold her and stripped her of her human dignity. In Sara’s memory, South Africa must urgently provide its forgotten daughters with viable alternatives to the sex trade and teach its sons about harmful masculinities. It has the opportunity to become the first African country to adopt an Equality Model, recognizing that prostitution destroys lives and human rights. As Madiba once said, “Freedom cannot be achieved unless women have been emancipated from all forms of oppression.”

We hope South Africa heeds his wisdom.

*Not her real name


This article was first published in the Huffington Post at and it is republished here with the permission of the author.


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Embrace Dignity calls on South African government to end prostitution

Ngo Calls On South Africa To Become The First African Country To End Prostitution And Sex Trafficking Through New Law

Equality Law proposed by Embrace Dignity will eliminate prostitution and sex trafficking and is needed to end violence against women and girls beyond 16 Days of Activism

For Embrace Dignity, a South African feminist and human rights NGO based in Woodstock, the realities that vulnerable women and young girls face every day as they are prostituted and trafficked on the streets of South Africa, necessitates action that extends far beyond the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children each year.

Prostitution is one of the most brutal forms of male-perpetrated sexual abuse and thrives on men’s entitlement to women’s bodies. Current South African law makes the purchase and sale of sexual acts illegal, however, while some police officers are known to arrest and brutalise prostituted women for loitering, buyers are rarely arrested.

For these reasons, Embrace Dignity is advocating for an Equality Law that is  based on the Nordic Model – which criminalises the purchaser of sex and decriminalises the seller – but also recognises the South African context of poverty, unemployment, poor education, violence against women and a high drop-out rate amongst learners.

Statistics show that the overwhelming majority of those sold in South Africa’s sex trade are local women and women trafficked from other countries. Police incident reports indicate that women in prostitution are often beaten, raped, abandoned and isolated. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is common. A study conducted amongst a group of prostituted individuals in South Africa found that 75% of the women in that group reported experiencing symptoms of PTSD.

“Passing the Equality Law to end prostitution is only the beginning of a greater shift that needs to happen within South African society, where the stigma and accountability must shift from prostituted people to their abusers and where the law must target the demand, realising that if there is no demand there is no business. We cannot prosper as a country while women and girls remain in bondage,” explains Nozizwe Madlala-Routledge, a former Deputy Minister of both Health and Defence and the Founder and Executive Director of Embrace Dignity.

“We actively pursue and support a law on prostitution in South Africa that recognises that prostitution is a form of violence against women, that it undermines gender equality and ends up perpetuating patriarchy. This is why we are advocating for the Equality Law. ,” explains Madlala-Routledge.

Over the years, Embrace Dignity has helped women exit prostitution by referring them for counselling, offering them skills training opportunities, providing them with small business development support and connecting them with education providers to access study opportunities. They have also offered assistance to survivors by supporting them to establish initiatives like the Survivor Empowerment and Support Programme (SESP) and by building a survivor network called Arise.

One of those women who have been supported by Embrace Dignity, is Grizelda Grootboom, the author of EXIT, a book that depicts her ordeal as a prostituted and trafficked person in Johannesburg over a period of 12 years. Grootboom’s story, which was published by Jacana in 2015, has put a face to an often hidden “industry” operating in the shadows of society. Currently, Grizelda works as a public education and motivational speaker for the Gauteng Department of Health and in Advocacy and Public Education for Embrace Dignity. But more than a decade ago, she found herself being trafficked by a friend whom she had trusted.

Carted between her mother’s home, shelters and orphanages while growing up, Grootboom found herself on the streets at 18 after being asked to leave the shelter she lived in as  she was now considered an adult by the state.

“I was desperate to find work and a place to stay and my friend offered me a chance to do that. There were no signs that she would misuse me and that is the most painful part when I think about it.”

When they arrived at her friend’s apartment, she told Grootboom to stay put while she popped out to get them something to eat. A few minutes later, Grootboom found herself surrounded by a group of men who started kicking and punching her and eventually took turns raping her.

“At first, I thought the house was being robbed, but then, when it continued for days and my friend did not come home, I started feeling like I deserved it because of the life I had lived on the streets, where you needed to be tough and hard to survive.”

While Grootboom had lived on the streets for a while, she had never sold her body in exchange for money. However, her story of neglect, abuse and violence started long before she arrived in Johannesburg.

As a child, she grew up in District Six and then Woodstock, but later found herself on the streets. Not too long after, she moved to Khayelitsha to live with her mom who at the time was living with her boyfriend. In Khayelitsha, Grootboom struggled to overcome the language barrier within her newfound community and had to adapt to walking a distance from her home to use shared ablution facilities. One night while walking home after fetching water, she was gang raped.

For the next few years, she would move between the streets and shelters, leaving whenever the house mother would mistreat her and spending time with the local gangsters, who she says at least offered her protection. Soon she was using drugs to get by in this harsh world.

Her ordeal in Johannesburg many years later, would however catapult her into a ruthless world where women are treated worse than second-class citizens. First she was locked up in a room where men would come in throughout the day and do whatever they pleased with her. Soon after, she was moved to the streets during the day to sell her body and locked up in brothels at night, where she was made to have sex with men for money for over three years. In that time she was also moved from province to province, but always under the watchful eyes of the pimps who owned her.  At 26, she was living in Port Elizabeth under the control of a madam, who owned a brothel in this city. It is here where she fell pregnant and started envisioning a different life for herself.

“I was pregnant with a baby girl, who I decided to call Summer. I chose the name, because I used to walk out of a brothel or a hotel in the early hours of the morning after being subjected to the most horrible things and watch the sun rise and feel the warmth of the sun on my skin and think to myself, this was a new day, I could change my life.”

Her pregnancy did not offer her any reprieve – she was still expected to prostitute her body – but she became determined to find a way out. At six months pregnant that hope was shattered when she was drugged and her baby forcibly removed by her madam.

“When I woke up, I saw her lying in some rags – she had died. This little person, who had become a symbol of the possibility of a new life, who was supposed to give me life again, she was gone. That was when I finally felt that they could do whatever they wanted with me. I was done.”

The next day, she was sent back to the streets and spent four years building up the capacity and support network to leave.

One of the biggest misconceptions, says Grootboom, is that people often think that prostituted persons want to remain on the streets. Leaving means evading pimps, uprooting yourself and often those who are supposed to protect the vulnerable end up violating them even more.

“The most violence I’ve experienced has been within the system itself – being kicked out of a shelter when I could not take care of myself as yet, getting locked up because you stole Sunlight soap at Shoprite to wash yourself or being forced to drive in a police van with other men and women and being told that the only way for you to get out of jail, was to give one of the policemen a blowjob.”

As part of our commitment to end the kind of violence that many women like Grootboom are exposed to on a daily basis,  Embrace Dignity will launch the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children by:

  • Mobilising support for a petition calling on President Jacob Zuma to enact the Equality Model Law to end prostitution and sex trafficking.
  • Hosting a launch of a book by Vera Qwesha, a survivor of prostitution.
  • Hosting a dialogue between a transformed former inmate and a survivor of prostitution.

Sharing the work that we do in support of women who wish to exit prostitution.

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